If you have been going through a rough patch and you’re finding it hard to get back on track and take your power back, then this is for you. It doesn’t matter where you are or how far off you are, because every day is an opportunity for change. Make peace with where you currently are as it is all leading you to your success. This is only one chapter of this beautiful story, so don’t judge yourself or be hard on yourself for not being where you want to be. Take this moment to acknowledge that you have made it through 100% of your bad days, and now you came across this post to take your power back.

Take a look around you for a moment. 

Take a look at your life, what are you thinking and feeling? Probably a lot of self-blame, resentment, thinking it is an unfair world, painful memories, and excuses as to why you think you’re not good enough and why things won’t work out for you. Now ask yourself, “Have these thought-processes or feelings ever served me?” Probably not. The only reason why you fell apart is because you accepted defeat. It is not the circumstances or what anyone has done to you. A good friend of mine once said, “People are responsible for what they do to you, but they’re not responsible for what you choose to do with it.” She’s right. For example, Person A can choose to dwell on it and hate life. While person B can use this to reflect on their choices and their thought-process that creates this feeling of continuous pain. Blaming others keeps you stuck in a bubble of resentment, and it is harming no one else but you. Maybe it feels like you can’t control the circumstances, but you can always control what you do with them and how to go about things.

Every time you blame a situation or a person, you give them your power. You allow them to be the villain of your story and this is how you currently feel – the victim. This doesn’t mean that it was okay for something to happen or that you’re not allowed to feel. Your feelings are always valid. All it means is that you can hurt from it and be Person B or you can hurt from it or be Person A and continue to make excuses to stay stuck in this mental and physical torture. To get your power back, the first step is making a decision to do so. Do that and you are already a step closer to where you want to be.

Practice Self-Reflection

Now take some time to reflect on where you currently are in life.Write it all down. For every area of your life, take notes of things you are in control of and act on that. At the same time, assess yourself and your habits or choices that lead you to the same old patterns. This is how you break a cycle, by breaking your old habits and creating new ones. Done that? Great. 

Create a Routine

Next step is to create a new routine for yourself. It is important to start your day with strong intentions, and have mental health (breathing exercises & affirmations) and physical health tools (exercise & self-care) to help you regulate your emotions. Physical health helps you release all the toxicity in your mind and it gives you a clearer-mind. Meditation helps a lot with centering yourself and affirmations are a great way to change your thought-process.

It Starts With You

Change starts with you first. That is what it truly takes. You cannot install better habits, feel better and make better choices in your finances or relationships if you’re not internally making the change first. It all starts and ends with you. You always have a choice to do something different, act differently and think differently. Carrying that baggage without dealing with it is definitely not an option.

What cycles are you breaking and creating?